You take the lead

So in my social dance class (salsa, swing, waltz, cha-cha, tango) the teacher taught us how important it was for the men to lead, and the women to follow. This is done really simply and easily if both are willing. The man needs to make decisions before the moves and should be thinking, and with a little bit of force should be able to tell a woman where he wants to take her. A woman, should be able to have enough tension in her arms and body so he can lead her in which ever direction. I found it frustrating when I would come up to a guy in the class, and he would ask me what he should do next. i would simply reply, " i don't know, your the guy" I know it might sound a bit harsh, but I really can't handle any more passive guys. I think that its it, no more, take off the skirt you think you are wearing and put on the pants. I am happy to be wearing the skirt in any relationship just fine. Take me for a dance and I will be content, but don't expect me to lead.
My friend and I talk about Dance crushes, they are the guys who are so great at leading that make you look like you are a great dancer. I want that kind of man in life.