Okay so I have to do it, just vent a little bit. I have not really turned that many guys down if they have asked me out on a date. I try to give everyone ( except some one I get creeped out by) at least a chance, but here is a clue for the guys. On a first date you should treat someone really great. Think of it like this, if its a blind date then it's your first impression. If you have been friends with this person its the first time that there might be a possibility for more, and if you just asked someone out because you thought you liked them then its the time that she can decide if she would ever go out with you again. In any way you look at it, why wouldn't you want to put your best foot forward?
I hate to break it to you but girls do test guys on the first date. Little things like if I try to pay for my portion will he actually take the money? Most ladies will offer but the key in that is that you should not accept. And don't say oh no I got the movie but you can get dinner, that just looks cheap because usually dinner is more expensive and means you failed a test on the date. Now I am not saying that we expect you to pay every single time, but for the first few dates it is nice and shows that you know how to treat a lady.
So here are some things to consider:
1. If you expect it to be a date, and she or you doesn't feel comfortable having you pick her up, offer to drive to her area of town at least, don't make her come to you.
2. If you are picking her up but for some reason aren't going to the door to pick her up, get out of the car to greet her and open the door for her. And then continue to open the doors, all the doors for her for the rest of the date.
3. if you are trying to impress her get to know her tastes in restaurants and movies and then you pick accordingly. That will show that you put some thought into it and that you care about what she likes.
4. Don't be on the phone, or texting while on the date, its rude and if its an emergency apologize and tell her that it is.
5.When she pulls out her wallet or money tell her that her money is not good here or something clever, but put effort in to NOT letting her pay and be genuine about it.
6. If you are going to have a cliche date ( you know dinner and a movie) be the man and step up to both places first like the ticket counter and the host at the restaurant. And be attentive, so if people are causing a disturbance in the movie theater and you notice that she seems annoyed by it and it is also bothering you then offer to move to a different spot or go to a different movie before she has to say something. it shows that you can take lead. Mainly through out the date be a gentleman show her that they still exist.
7. If you don't have money but want to go on a date, be creative I know most of my friends and I would enjoy that more anyway, like hiking, a picnic, a park, even something that is cheap like going to a drive in theater and bringing your own food because it would be cheaper, or a museum or gallery, they are good entertainment and less money than a movie plus you can actually talk to each other unlike at the movies.
These are good ways to help your chances on getting a yes if you wish to have a second date.
