Playing the Field

I have been dating multiple guys online. Some people have viewed it as bad, but I have been having fun with it. But the question I seem to ask myself is, "Are male or female better at this?"

I thought I was doing well with this. I was being polite, and even letting guys now right away if they tried to communicate with that I wasn't interested in them by sending the polite response, and also letting them know if after one date I was not interested. But then I started to go out with more interesting guys, guys that maybe I would want to go out with more than once. Now it seems to be harder to play the field. Of course some guys make it easy to continue to play the field because they are too scared of making a move that even after 5 dates they still seem weird about you even going in for a hug. Or tell you that they need to see you more than once every 2 weeks. Or text you a long message on New years Eve about how they like you. So With that I have been able to "keep playing the field". But then, wow you meet some guys who actually are interesting, not afraid of physical contact, and wow seem interested in you for more than just what they see. So I stopped playing the field. But then he talks to you and tells you that he is seeing other girls.

Okay so it is MUCH better when guys are staight up with you from the start. And I was honset with him as well because I honsetly was not seeing any other guys as I was seeing him, but now I am like well I can't be the one that feels more so I got to keep playing the field. Which makes me wonder if I am not very good at it. And then it makes me wonder, well I told him that i wasn't seeing any one else so now if I start,how do I bring it up because i don't want to look like I was lying to him.

I mean in relationships you always risk something. And when asked if I was looking for a serious relationship, I would say no I mean not right off the bat. So why should it bother me if they are doing something that I just wish I was better at? Maybe because I wasn't designed that way. I want someone to choose me, yet with online dating the ocean is full of fish. And you get back to the fact that the ones that do choose you, you don't want. And the ones that you want either don't choose just you or just don't choose you.

So is playing the field the way to go? I don't know, I mean even with trying to not put all your eggs in one basket you do risk getting hurt because that just happens when ever you start to let some one in your life. The things I do know is that I had been having fun, I have some great stories to tell based off of all my dating in the past couple of months, and I have also been treated like a lady and also have great stories to tell of a different kind through that. But maybe I can't handle it when I actually start to like someone. I mean isn't that when most people decide they don't want to play the field any more?