Why is it that it is easier to either ignore someone, or tell them a bit of a lie than to come out with how you really feel or think. Like if someone asks you if you like their shirt, and you secretly hate it but don't want to hurt their feelings some people say " Oh that's interesting" or change the subject hoping the other person does not realize. Others may actually flat out say " Oh I love it" rather than tell them the truth and still others might just be rude about it.
The reason I have been thinking about this so much is because while dating you might think well this person is great but there is no chemistry, or this person is trouble and I should stay away, or I really like this person but I shouldn't let them know. And then it seems the games begin.
Why does it seem that it is easier to ignore someone than to tell them what's up? is it really that we are trying to protect their feelings? or are we really just trying to protect ourselves. We don't want to seem like the jerk, or burn any bridges or feel guilty if the other person is hurt. So instead we go from being hot, to cold. To wanting to hang out, to all of a sudden being to busy. Instead of being like " I could make time for you, but I am not sure I want that yet", or " Look I moved too fast and now I want to slow it down" Instead we give each other these lines that may be half truths, or avoid the person. When probably the person on the other end is thinking,"What did I do?" When probably it was nothing and the person just didn't know how to say something or break it off. I realized how bad this can be because I have been on both sides of this. One where I am the one ignoring or feeding some excuse, but also one where I am left not understanding why they just don't talk to me about what happened.
Then there is the case where you know it is not gonna go anywhere and you know they are trouble and you should cut them out of your life but you don't. it almost seems easier at times to be the one cut out rather than to be the one cutting.

I wonder at times what it would look like if we were more honest with each other, not in an evil way of where i will say it so my words will cut you kind of way. But a way where like we said what we were feeling, thinking, and meaning instead of leaving it open for interpretation. Like if a freind was wearing that shirt and asked if you liked it, saying " Well honestly it is not something I would pick out to wear." Or " you know maybe you should try this shirt instead" maybe then if we started to be honest about these small things than it wouldn't be so bad to be honest with the big things.

Always 2 sides

You know there is always 2 sides 2 every story. I find it facinating how if 2 people told the same story than you would probably hear 2 different stories. It's how people interpret the stories that make it seem so different. People's personalities also some people see a rose as red, some people see a rose as romance and it is just so interesting. I don't know what really got me started on this whole understanding people business but I love to try and figure people out.
I was watching a movie the other day where this guy believed that this life sized doll was a person and it got me thinking about how people deal with pain so differently. Some people create more personalities so that they do not have to deal with it, some people block it off, some people don't let people get close to them, some people show no emotion at all, and some show and share to much. But everyone is different and I think it is so beautiful.